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Positive thinking is bull

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I need to say something about my life about positive thinking. People wonder why I’m so negative all the time. They say that my life has issues because of my bad thoughts, or as one person put it, my “negative thoughts turn into negative realities.” Except they don’t.

This is simply a fact. I don’t know why it’s the opposite for everyone else but apparently it works to be negative for me. But yet just googling “Positive Thinking” reveals site after site praising it…because reasons. Guess what? It’s BS to me.

 The more Positive thinking I have about something, the more likely things blow up in my face.

For most of 2016, I thought to myself “Ok, it’s going to get better. I’m free of the bullshit and nothing bad will happen.” Shortly afterward…BAM!!!! I fuck up at my job, or I piss off a friend, or something happens to my car, or a myriad of other fucked up things happens.

Even in situations that are kind of bad, If I think things will get better, they won’t: For example, the tires need to be aligned on my car… I went to get them aligned and all of a sudden I’m told there’s issues with the steering/axle/whatever and they can’t do the alignment until I pay about $2k in repairs.

Or I get put on probation at work. And I think I can get out of it, and I work my ass off to do so…then either something else happens where I fuck up or they fire me anyway.

As you can clearly see, this is why I get pissed off when someone tells me I’m needing to be positive or something like that. I’ve felt like I was a bad person for being negative, but it seems like the universe WANTS me to be negative. Because apparently, positive thinking causes disasters for me. The more positive I think and the more I think I will be OK, the more likely everything will come crashing down on me.

Honestly, you’re probably going to disagree with me. You’re going to sing the praises of positivity, gratitute, and whatever other happiness. Just so you know, you’re the kind of person who pisses me off.

Think you can call BS? Prove me wrong. I dare you. I’ve had people try to stuff positivity down my throat for years and I’M SICK AND TIRED OF THAT BULLSHIT.

Also, I’ll be either updating this article or making another with any claims/arguments I get in the comments, so expect responses.

10 Questions for anyone who believes in the Law of Attraction

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Since the inception of The Secret back in 2006, it seems like a whole bunch of people have crawled out of the sewer to try to sell people on the Law of Attraction. Apart from being a Victim blaming & Contradictory mess, there are also many questions that anyone who believes really should sit down and think about before they continue attempting to be “Mindful” of their thoughts.



Questions to ask about the loa

Please explain how the “Law” of Attraction is a universal law when unlike every other universal law, The LOA also requires that you have full faith in the law.

2. If two people use the LOA to attact the same finite thing (for example, a job opportunity at a company,) who wins? And how?

3. If the “Law” of Attraction always works, why are there cases when things fail not because of alleged error on the manifestor, but because they “Weren’t a match” to the thing they were trying to attract?

4. If James Arthur Ray is supposedly as good with the “Law” of attraction as he claims to be, then explain how he ended up in prison for negligent homicide for allowing two people to die during one of his woo steam tent experiences?

5. Why are LOA practitioners, gurus, and life coaches so afraid to put the LOA to the test? Why are they so afraid of someone questioning their beliefs that they will resort to ignoring, blocking or having their subjects dogpile the questioner? If something claims to be a universal law, then it should be subject to the same testing as the other universal laws. Unless of course, they think it’ll lose.

6. Other universal laws such as the laws of thermodynamics or Newton’s Laws are pretty much established and set on objective principles. How can the “Law” of Attraction be a universal law when its methodology is blatantly subjective?

7. This is more a request then a question: If “The secret” is as ancient as LOA believers claim, please provide decisive evidence of writings of the “Law” of attraction before 1930 (which is when it was actually coined by a man named Wallace Wattles.) Note that they must specifically be talking about the LOA here, not simply you twisting writings into “proof” of the Law.

8. Again, if the “Law” of Attraction was a universal law, its applications would be relatively consistent across all “Experts.” Instead, we see people having completely different approaches and requirements to the LOA, and even different definitions. Please explain how this can happen.

9. If Quantum energy is what powers the “Law” of Attraction, please explain why the “messages” The Secret claims helps run this barely leave the human body, yet somehow affect the universe?

For Number 10 I offer a situation I ask to every LOA believer:
In 2005, a nine year old girl named Jessica Lunsford was kidnapped from her own bedroom. Over the course of a weekend, she was raped, beaten, and eventually buried alive, eventually dying buried in 2 plastic garbage bags.

Fast forward to 2007. Joe Vitale, Who appeared on The Secret and is one of the biggest proponents of the “Law” of Attraction, is on Larry King Live talking about The Secret. About this point, Lunsford’s rapist and murderer was found guilty, so When asked by King if Lunsford could attract the atrocius acts commited upon her, Vitale responded with this: “We are attracting everything to ourselves. There is no exception.”

Do you agree with Mr. Vitale? If so, are you in effect saying that Jessica Lunsford deserved what happened to her? And how exactly did she manifest that? Or do you believe her parents attracted it, which violates the above rule about us attracting our own manifestation? Bear in mind she had a normal childhood with normal parents, no abuse, nothing out of the ordinary. Also, bear in mind you’re also advocating victim blating.

If you don’t agree with Mr. Vitale, then I have but one question: Are you willing to consider the “Law” of Attraction for the bullshit that it is?

This article was originally posted on Medium.

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